Written by Narelle Clyde, a guest contributor.
What would life be like if you were living as the “most expressed” version of yourself? That means your true self. Your authentic self. The one who you came here to be. ALL of her in her power, her beauty, her greatness, her wisdom - her downright magic and all the miracles she beholds! Who would you be? How would you hold yourself? What would you share with the world?
Living a life fully expressed is not something that is reserved for a select few - we ALL get to live in our fullest expression. Every single one of us. We all have a light to shine, something of value to give and an inner beauty that exudes with every move we make. When you look in the mirror, there is a miracle, a goddess, a piece of pure magic staring back at you. I invite you to start to see her now and begin living your life as the most expressed version of you.
That life is available for everyone. It is your birthright to live a life according to your own values, to what lights you up. It is also your birthright to radiate that beautiful light inside of you that we oh-so-know is in there, even if you haven’t quite been able to own it yet -- never mind knowing what the bloody hell to do with it!
Ask yourself this: do you ever wear a mask? No, not the kind of surgical mask we are being asked to wear now. You know, do you put a filter over who you really are, depending on who you’re around? You might have one mask that you wear with your partner. Another with your friends. A different mask for a different set of friends (god forbid they should all meet together and then you’d need to decide which mask to wear?!) Then there’s the mask you wear with your parents, siblings, co-workers, the hairdresser, the next-door neighbour...And the list goes on and on. It’s exhausting. No wonder you’re going to bed each night feeling drained of energy and wondering why. It’s the masks. When you take them off for good, and just be YOU - you can be in any situation, any environment, with any other person in the whole wide world and just be yourself. That is absolute freedom, dear one! And it’s available for you, right here, right now.
Here’s the truth: You get to be ALL of you. ALL of the time.
That doesn’t mean you need to be dancing and prancing and singing from every rooftop - unless you want to, of course, then by all means YES, go do that! Being fully expressed is not about being extroverted, or ‘out there’. It’s about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing who you are and being completely unapologetic about it. It’s about loving and honouring your light as well as your dark. It’s about being able to communicate and articulate your needs, most importantly with yourself. It’s about having boundaries and a level of love for yourself that deserves an award. It’s about sharing your gifts with the world. It’s about saying yes to you and all of your desires. It’s about knowing you are worthy and deserving of it all. It’s about letting go of judgement, first and foremost on yourself. It’s about choosing you first. It’s about knowing that the more YOU you are - the more life responds to you, bringing you abundance in health, wealth and happiness.
You truly do get to do, be and have it all - whatever that looks like for you.
My Top 7 Tips For Expressing Yourself
This daily practice is a tool that has absolutely changed my life. From once wearing many masks, flat out exhausted, battling major anxiety and depression - meditation enabled me to re-connect to myself and in the process, re-discover who I really am. When you know who you are, you are able to express yourself from that space. Pure, grounded, authentic. Meditation helps you to liberate energy by letting go of limiting behaviours, patterns and stories that keep you stuck.
If you are new to this practice, I recommend starting with 5 minutes each morning. Have your phone on flight mode, set a timer, sit upright and simply focus on your breath. In through the nose and out through the nose. Yes, your mind will wander! It’s not about getting to an ‘empty mind’ - it’s about giving yourself that time, that space to connect with the higher aspect of you. You can increase the length over time. Aim to get to 20 minutes by 30 days of continuous practice. Have fun!
Not only does exercise release Endorphins, which means we feel really good - it also improves our overall health and wellbeing. This means we feel energised and have an increased zest for life! When we exercise regularly, we look and feel better - which increases our confidence. When we are confident, we are able to express ourselves more freely and naturally - becoming a magnet for more people and experiences that feel really good!
As an ex-Personal Trainer, I recommend moving your body daily, in a way that feels fun and motivating. Between 20-40 minutes is great. For me, this is a mixture of yoga, walking, running, strength training, and freestyle dancing to my favourite music. (Side note: dance like no one’s watching - because they are not!) For you, it might be a team sport or group training exercise. There are so many options available to us, experiment with what feels good for you, knowing that it doesn’t have to mean hours slogging it out in the gym.
3. Identity Statement
Also known as ‘Scripting’, you can do this by reading, writing, or speaking aloud. This daily practice builds neural pathways in your brain caused by repeating the same information over and over. When we practice ‘being’ the person we want to be (in our fullest expression) our brains don’t know the difference between fantasy and reality. So over time, we automatically start to look for (and attract) people, environments, and experiences that help us to create that ultimate reality.
This is one of the foundational tools I teach my private coaching clients as I believe it’s fundamental to consciously creating the life you desire. Start by taking yourself, journal in tow, to your favourite place where you can really tune into what you want. For me, that’d be the closest beach, but for you, it could be a park, forest, your garden, bedroom, or even favourite coffee shop. Think about your ideal life; what does that look and feel like? Who is the person who is living that life? List out all of their characteristics - that’s your identity statement! Read, write or say aloud this statement every day, ensuring that you’re really feeling how it feels to be that person.
4. Take Up Space
This is another great exercise I encourage my private clients to do. When we are not living as our fully expressed selves, we tend to shrink down. Not only physically, but energetically too. People might say something like; “oh I didn’t even see you there” - that’s because you’re not seeing yourself and so you’re most certainly not comfortable taking up space. When we allow ourselves to take up space, we are embodied in who we are, we are confident, and we stand tall and let our lights shine for all the world to see.
Practice this by imagining that you have a beautiful, big pair of wings and you are spreading them out far and wide. The colour, texture, dimension - that’s all up to you, go wild! But before you go anywhere, whether it’s a social occasion or work environment, or even just heading to a dental appointment or the supermarket - practice taking up space. Physically this means standing tall and spreading your shoulders wide (which is scientifically proven to increase confidence) imagining your wings in place - but the most important thing is the energy of this. When you’re holding the energy of having these big beautiful wings, see how differently you hold yourself, how other people respond to you, and how much more self-expressed you feel.
5. Use Your Voice
Nowadays, we are so used to emails, text messages, and communicating our emotions by the use of emojis, that we’ve lost track of actually verbalising how we are feeling. While voice and language is just one aspect of self-expression, this one thing greatly limits how we express ourselves with others.
Here’s your challenge: Take the time to pick up the phone instead of sending an SMS to a friend. Look for opportunities to use your voice for any purpose: singing to yourself in the shower, singing a happy birthday message to a loved one (no matter what it sounds like - at the very least you’ll make someone laugh, but guaranteed they’ll also feel loved. How long has it been since anyone sang a personalised happy birthday to you? My guess is probably not since you were in single digits!) You may also have been avoiding a confronting conversation with someone. Have the talk. Instead of saying “I don’t mind when someone asks where you want to meet for coffee” - use your voice to articulate what you really want. There are countless opportunities for you to express yourself using your voice and with each one, you will feel more empowered, more confident, and more YOU.
6. Get Creative!
Whether or not you think you are creative by nature, there is so much joy to be had by spending some time playing and being curious like when we were kids. There are unlimited ways to be creative: Painting, Drawing, Singing, Dancing, Playing Music, Cooking/ Baking, Getting out into nature and making daisy chains, or doing cartwheels - think about what YOU loved to do as a child and explore that. Don’t think about whether it’s good/ bad or right/wrong - it’s all perfect and you can’t get it wrong. It’s your individual, unique expression - whatever that looks like for you.
When we allow ourselves to creatively express ourselves, it sparks creativity - expression - in all other areas of life. As Albert Einstein once said: " Creativity is contagious - pass it on” - I love that. What is something that you can create today?
7. Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
We know that the magic happens outside of our comfort zone, right? So it’s time to get comfortable being uncomfortable and experience all the magic that this brings! Eleanor Roosevelt once famously quoted: “Do one thing every day that scares you”. I live by this. I used to avoid discomfort and anything scary at all costs. Guess what? I didn’t get very far. Once I chose to lean into courage and “feel the fear and do it anyway”, life got a whole lot more expansive and fun! Most importantly, I found that I was able to express myself in ways that I hadn’t previously, because I was doing things I hadn’t done before.
Think about a butterfly. Yes, the metamorphosis process is hard, challenging, and uncomfortable - but is it worth it to come out the other side, fully expressed as a beautiful butterfly? Absolutely! So go, be the butterfly and do something scary and uncomfortable today that you know will help you become more self-expressed - it might even be doing one of the above tips!
About the Author
Narelle Clyde is a Spiritual Life Coach and Multidimensional Healer based on the Gold Coast, Australia. Narelle works with women who are feeling blocked in one or more areas in their life. She helps them to shift into the most elevated version of themselves, which results in more energy, ease, and flow in their lives and businesses. Her passion is helping others to live their best possible life by aligning them with their soul’s blueprint. Guiding them to be who they really are and all that they were born to be!
Find out more about Narelle Clyde's work on: www.narelleclyde.com